I am my own authority

This week I want to dig into a lie that honestly, tends to be rather unpopular among young women (and young men). To be honest, it is an area where I continue to struggle. It is also an area where believing lies can be particularly disastrous.

Are you ready for it? I think we should talk about authority.

Is it okay to date non-Christians?

    Lately, there has been some discussion on this blog about whether or not it is okay for Christians to date non-Christians. We encountered this same conversation over and over as we did research for Lies Young Women Believe. In fact this is one of the 25 lies addressed directly in the book.

    The girls involved in the research phase of this book told us things like:

     • “ I really want to marry a Christian, but I’m not looking for marriage right now, so I don’t really care.”

     • “ I don’t really think it matters if the guys I date are Christians or not. For one, we’re just in high school. I don’t really think that religion is an         issue right now.”

     • “ If you plant a seed, it can make a beautiful flower. You’re spreading God’s word, whether it works out or not. If you can compromise, think         about it…you can impact a non-Christian.”

Some of you have made similar comments here on the blog. Specifically, it seems that some of you are wondering if it’s okay to date non-Christians. The short answer to your question is no. God’s Word urges us not to link our lives with non-believers and the consequences of choosing to do otherwise can be disastrous.

Truth or Bare Fashion Tests

Modesty has become a hot topic here on the blog. In fact, almost 150 of you have left comments on our previous posts about the subject (if you haven’t read them yet, check out our archives).

Most of you seem to “get” why dressing modestly matters. In fact, I have been blown away by the number of you who are willing to buck the culture by taking a stand in this area. But one trip down the swimsuit aisle is enough to remind me that finding clothes that are both fashionable and modest can seem like mission impossible.

“I am with you” (Lessons Learned from Church Camp, part 2)

I am wondering where you are looking for satisfaction?

Do you feel like if you can just get a boyfriend, then you will be satisfied? God promises that He will be with you.

Do you feel like if your family situation changes, then you will be satisfied? God promises that He will be with you.

Do you feel like if you can be a star volleyball player, first chair musician, or straight A student, then you will be satisfied? God promises that He will be with you.

Do you feel like if you can just be good enough, smart enough, thin enough, or pretty enough, then you will be satisfied? God promises to be with you.

Lessons Learned at Church Camp

This week I am blogging from church camp. I am tagging along with a group of 7-12-graders from my church as they spend the week at our local associational camp (think bugs, bunk beds, uncomfortable mattresses and cafeteria food!).

Last night the camp pastor preached from the story of Nicodemus found in John chapter 3. Nicodemus was a Pharisee, a.k.a a religious leader. One night he snuck away to ask Jesus some pretty tough questions. The truth is, I want to ask the same question Nicodemus did…what are the steps necessary to become a Christian? In other words, what does it take to be saved? 

Garbage In, Garbage Out

Does your mind work like a computer? Mine does. Just like my computer, my mind is capable of storing unbelievable amounts of information. I can still remember my 10th birthday party, my first day of junior high, and my first date with my husband. Just like a computer, my mind is capable of filing lyrics to hundreds of songs (when was the last time you heard a song on the radio that you didn’t know the words to?) along with data on how to add and subtract, tell the difference between a pretty flower and a poison ivy leaf and diagram a sentence. And sometimes, just like a computer, my mind crashes and I find it difficult to think at all.

Our minds are like computers in another way. Just like computers, what we put into our minds is exactly what we get out. It is a basic law of computer programming that a computer cannot output something that it was not programmed to do. In other words, what goes in is what comes out.

What is true friendship?

I can remember it like it was yesterday. I was in the seventh grade. I had just dialed in the combination to my locker when an avalanche occurred. Someone had filled my locker to the brim with hygiene products. When I opened the locker, it triggered the avalanche and several bottles of soap and shampoo spilled out into the hallway. As if that wasn’t embarrassing enough, the culprits had included a note that pointed out that I “stunk” and suggested that I use the “gifts” they’d given me to take a shower. I was humiliated. I wanted to run. I wanted to hide. I swore I was never coming back to seventh grade.

It turns out that the shampoo bandits were my “friends.” While it’s true that the hormonal changes of puberty may have left me less than shower fresh, their tactic for dealing with it was less than friendly. In fact, it was down right mean.

“God is just like my father”

No matter what your experience with your earthly dad has been, you can trust that God is a good Father. In Lies, Dannah writes, “ God is a father, but He is not like any many you have ever known. The wisest, kindest earthly father is only a pale reflection of our heavenly Father. The God of the Bible is infinitely more wonderful and pure and loving than even the most wonderful father. God our Father is perfect (Matthew 5:48) and unchanging (James 1:17). Our earthly fathers cannot be those things (Matthew 7:11). Regardless of how you may think or feel, God is a good Father who dearly loves His children—including you. He can be trusted.”

Sin

Are you willing to take our 30-day challenge?

Will you join me? Will you commit to spending at least some time reading the Bible every day for the next thirty days? I hope so. I’ll be writing about my experience right here on the blog this month, and I want to hear from you. If you’re ready for a heavy dose of life changing, bondage breaking, freedom bringing Truth, join me by spending time reading your Bible every day for the next 30 days. Share you commitment right here so that we can spur each other on!