Are Crushes Okay?

There is one question that has been asked on this blog more than any other—are crushes okay? It seems that many of you are serious about your commitment to remain physically pure until your wedding day, but that hasn’t stopped your heart from racing when a certain fella walks into the room. And you’re wondering “are these feelings okay?”

I’ve read your questions, and realized that this is an important topic for many of you, but I’ve stayed silent for one big reason—I wasn’t sure how to answer. If I’m being honest, I have to admit that I feel as conflicted as many of you seem to.

It’s All About Me

I saw an interesting bumper sticker this week. It said simply, “It’s all about me!” I thought to myself, “Really? That’s the one statement you want to make to the world?” Of all the things that person could have taken a stand for by their bumper sticker choice, political endorsements, a love for a certain cause, etc., they chose to announce their selfishness? I rolled my eyes and kept on driving.

But as I drove I began to feel the gentle tug of the Holy Spirit on my heart. And while I don’t have the bumper sticker to prove it, I was faced with the fact that all to often, I too live like it’s all about me.

A “double-minded” quiz

“Scene 1: It’s ten o’clock on Sunday morning. Sadie bounces from person to person as church is about to begin. She hugs everyone and smiles. She races toward the door when she sees Corrie, the youth pastor’s wife, who is planning this weekend’s youth retreat. She hugs her and tells her how “psyched” she is for it and that she’s really ready for a “God encounter.” She thanks her for planning it and races off to hug another needy heart. Sadie has a strong spiritual gift of mercy. She knows it and she loves using it.

Scene 2: It’s ten o’clock on Sunday night.
Sadie is parked in front of her laptop where she’s been for the last hour. Right now she’s I.M.-ing with Jake. First they talk about how “face” Corrie is. Then, the conversation gets a little sexual. Jake says he’d like to take her virginity away from her, but he’s just not sure. After all, she’s the pastor’s daughter. What would he think? Sadie says it’s none of her dad’s business.

Will the real Sadie please stand up?” (Lies Young Women Believe, 103).

Wanna take a trip?

My bags are packed, my boarding pass is printed and I am waiting anxiously to head off to Chicago, IL for the weekend. I won’t be vacationing, or taking in the sights—even better! I will be joining with thousands of other women (and young women) from across the country at the True Woman ’08 Conference.

Share your Lies Young Women Believe Testimony Right Here

Today, we release an additional resource to help you identify lies and apply God’s Truth. The Lies Young Women Believe Companion Guide hits the shelves today!

In celebration of that release, I want to encourage you share your stories of how this book has impacted you right here. If you’ve already shared, we’d love to hear it again. What a powerful effect it will have to be able to access those testimonies all in one place! If you’ve never shared a personal testimony about the book’s impact, I would love for you to take a minute now to tell us about it.