The Lies Young Women Believe Companion Guide will hit bookstores on October 1st. We are super excited about this resource and we’re praying that it will further challenge you as you seek to identify lies and choose Truth in your own lives.
If you’re anything like me, these kinds of records fascinate you. In fact, most of us are drawn to the idea of doing something spectacular, even if it’s as silly as choreographing the world’s largest coke fountain.
But, this idea that performance equals value can easily trip us up. It’s true that the people who are listed in the Guinness Book of World Records have accomplished something extraordinary. But does that mean that they have more value than those of us who haven’t been a part of a giant human peace sign or sat in a tub filled with rattlesnakes?
Our media choices do impact us. With that in mind, I think it is important that we take a hard look at our choices to make sure that they do more good than harm. Otherwise, our media choices can slowly introduce us to lies that lead to bondage.
“If you are taking in regular or significant doses of music, television, the internet, and movies, you are being affected by them. The question is: Are you being influenced positively or negatively? The impact is usually not felt immediately—its more like and IV in your arm that goes drip…drip…drip…gradually pumping a foreign substance into your system. If the substance dripping through that plastic tubing is toxic or poisonous, you may not feel the results right away, but once it gets into your system, your whole body will definitely be affected!
Likewise, the consequences of taking toxic media into your mind and soul may not be realized until further down the road when it’s too late and the damage has been done” (Lies Young Women Believe, 152).
So, I’m turning off the drip. I am going to pray through my media choices, specifically my use of Facebook and I’m going to make sure that the pros outweigh the cons. I am going to strive to be especially mindful of how this particular media choice impacts my spiritual walk. Care to join me?
I just got back from the funeral of a very good friend of mine. He was a youth pastor, a teacher, a counselor, a father, a husband, and a trustworthy friend. He leaves behind a wife and five kids. He was thirty-three.
Tragedies like this one have a way of bringing clarity into our lives. My friend was well accomplished. He had several degrees and an important career. But as we remembered him today, very little of that mattered. What does matter is the relationship he had with Jesus Christ.
Have you seen the show The Moment of Truth? I wouldn’t exactly offer a glowing endorsement, but I have to admit I’ve been sucked in to an episode or two. In case you haven’t, here’s the premise—contestants are asked a series of questions designed to cause drama (examples include: have you ever lied to get a job, have you ever stolen anything, and do you really care about starving children in Africa?). Their answers are matched up against a lie detector test. The goal is to win half a million dollars by daring to be truthful.
The show is really about airing dirty laundry for cash and usually the contestants’ answers lead to tears and angry looks from their family members offstage. I’ll admit, it’s intriguing but it communicates a dangerous message that Truth is destructive or that deception is somehow is the safer route. This is a lie with serious consequences
Several of you have recently commented about your struggle to feel beautiful. This is a common area of heartbreak for young women. In fact, the challenge to embrace my own beauty and worth has been one of the most intense struggles of my life and I know that I am not alone. I have personally witnessed the turmoil that many of you experience in this area and I know how widespread those feelings are among your generation.
According to a recent study, “ teens may be replacing intercourse with more alternatives they perceive as safer. For example more than 50 percent of U.S. teens ages 15 to 19 have engaged in oral sex. This number increases to almost 70 percent for those who are 18 and 19.
And it doesn’t stop there. The girls we talked to admitted that while they weren’t having sex, they didn’t see much harm in being sexual through the way that they dressed, the way they communicated with boys (even those who were “just friends”) and the way they presented themselves through text-messaging and online.