Are Crushes Okay?

There is one question that has been asked on this blog more than any other—are crushes okay? It seems that many of you are serious about your commitment to remain physically pure until your wedding day, but that hasn’t stopped your heart from racing when a certain fella walks into the room. And you’re wondering “are these feelings okay?”

I’ve read your questions, and realized that this is an important topic for many of you, but I’ve stayed silent for one big reason—I wasn’t sure how to answer. If I’m being honest, I have to admit that I feel as conflicted as many of you seem to.

It’s All About Me

I saw an interesting bumper sticker this week. It said simply, “It’s all about me!” I thought to myself, “Really? That’s the one statement you want to make to the world?” Of all the things that person could have taken a stand for by their bumper sticker choice, political endorsements, a love for a certain cause, etc., they chose to announce their selfishness? I rolled my eyes and kept on driving.

But as I drove I began to feel the gentle tug of the Holy Spirit on my heart. And while I don’t have the bumper sticker to prove it, I was faced with the fact that all to often, I too live like it’s all about me.

A “double-minded” quiz

“Scene 1: It’s ten o’clock on Sunday morning. Sadie bounces from person to person as church is about to begin. She hugs everyone and smiles. She races toward the door when she sees Corrie, the youth pastor’s wife, who is planning this weekend’s youth retreat. She hugs her and tells her how “psyched” she is for it and that she’s really ready for a “God encounter.” She thanks her for planning it and races off to hug another needy heart. Sadie has a strong spiritual gift of mercy. She knows it and she loves using it.

Scene 2: It’s ten o’clock on Sunday night.
Sadie is parked in front of her laptop where she’s been for the last hour. Right now she’s I.M.-ing with Jake. First they talk about how “face” Corrie is. Then, the conversation gets a little sexual. Jake says he’d like to take her virginity away from her, but he’s just not sure. After all, she’s the pastor’s daughter. What would he think? Sadie says it’s none of her dad’s business.

Will the real Sadie please stand up?” (Lies Young Women Believe, 103).

Wanna take a trip?

My bags are packed, my boarding pass is printed and I am waiting anxiously to head off to Chicago, IL for the weekend. I won’t be vacationing, or taking in the sights—even better! I will be joining with thousands of other women (and young women) from across the country at the True Woman ’08 Conference.

Share your Lies Young Women Believe Testimony Right Here

Today, we release an additional resource to help you identify lies and apply God’s Truth. The Lies Young Women Believe Companion Guide hits the shelves today!

In celebration of that release, I want to encourage you share your stories of how this book has impacted you right here. If you’ve already shared, we’d love to hear it again. What a powerful effect it will have to be able to access those testimonies all in one place! If you’ve never shared a personal testimony about the book’s impact, I would love for you to take a minute now to tell us about it. 

What Can We Learn From the World’s Largest Pumpkin?

If you’re anything like me, these kinds of records fascinate you. In fact, most of us are drawn to the idea of doing something spectacular, even if it’s as silly as choreographing the world’s largest coke fountain.

But, this idea that performance equals value can easily trip us up. It’s true that the people who are listed in the Guinness Book of World Records have accomplished something extraordinary. But does that mean that they have more value than those of us who haven’t been a part of a giant human peace sign or sat in a tub filled with rattlesnakes?

I’m Taking a Facebook Fast

Our media choices do impact us. With that in mind, I think it is important that we take a hard look at our choices to make sure that they do more good than harm. Otherwise, our media choices can slowly introduce us to lies that lead to bondage.

“If you are taking in regular or significant doses of music, television, the internet, and movies, you are being affected by them. The question is: Are you being influenced positively or negatively? The impact is usually not felt immediately—its more like and IV in your arm that goes drip…drip…drip…gradually pumping a foreign substance into your system. If the substance dripping through that plastic tubing is toxic or poisonous, you may not feel the results right away, but once it gets into your system, your whole body will definitely be affected!

Likewise, the consequences of taking toxic media into your mind and soul may not be realized until further down the road when it’s too late and the damage has been done” (Lies Young Women Believe, 152).

So, I’m turning off the drip. I am going to pray through my media choices, specifically my use of Facebook and I’m going to make sure that the pros outweigh the cons. I am going to strive to be especially mindful of how this particular media choice impacts my spiritual walk. Care to join me?