Quiz Time! Are Your Words Nasty or Nice?

Quiz time, y’all!

I just recently finished Mary Kassian’s Bible study, Conversation Peace, and it smoked me. I didn’t think I had real problems with my words, but boy, was I wrong!

How about you? Could your speech use a little (or a lot!) of transformation? Take this twenty-question quiz from Mary Kassian to find out:

  1. Do you gossip? Do you enjoy repeating the latest news or rumor you heard about another person? (See Prov. 11:13; 20:19; 26:20.)
  2. Do you slander? Do you say things about others behind their backs that you wouldn’t say to their faces? (See Ps. 50:20; 52:4; Prov. 11:9.)
  3. Do you nag? Do you repeat your desires and opinions to others until you get what you want? (See Prov. 21:19; 26:21).
  4. Do you meddle? Do you make the interaction between other people your concern? Do you try to referee arguments or act as a go-between? (See Prov. 26:17).
  5. Do you brag? Do you seek to present your skills, your experiences or your accomplishments as greater than they really are? (See Prov. 14:23; 25:27; 27:2).
  6. Do you lie? Are you less than totally honest? Do you misrepresent yourself, others, or events? (Ps. 120:3; 34:13; Prov. 12:19, 22; 26:18–19; Eph. 4:15, 25).
  7. Are you quarrelsome? Do you feel a need to be proved right or to have the last word? Do you argue? (See Prov. 17:14; 20:3; 26:21; 27:15; Phil. 2:14).
  8. Do you respond in anger? Are you hot-tempered or defensive? Are you easily provoked? (See Prov. 15:1; 29:11, 22; Eph. 4:26–27).
  9. Do you talk too much? Do you babble? Do you spend a lot of time on the phone or in chat rooms? Do you monopolize conversations with your opinions? Do you interrupt? (See Eccl. 10:11; Prov. 15:28; 29:20; Jas. 1:19).
  10. Are you reluctant to admit you’re wrong? Do you fail to ask forgiveness? Do you refuse to admit your error when you feel another’s error is greater? (Prov. 29:23; Jas. 5:16).
  11. Do you betray a confidence? Do you repeat matters that you should keep private? If someone has failed or injured you, do you feel compelled to tell someone else about it? (See Prov. 6:19; 17:19; 19:11; 25:9–10).
  12. Do you criticize? Find fault? Focus on the bad instead of the good? Do you see people’s shortcomings more than their strengths? (Ps. 41:5; Rom. 1:30).
  13. Do you complain? Do you bewail the circumstances you find yourself in? Do you let others know that you resent being inconvenienced? (See Phil. 2:14).
  14. Do you make assumptions and assume the worst about other people’s motives and intentions? (See 1 Tim. 6:3–4; Prov. 29:20).
  15. Do you hold grudges? Focus on past wrongs? Accuse others? (See Prov. 11:12).
  16. Are you sarcastic? Do you mock others? Do you use negative humor to put others down? (See Prov. 15:1; 16:27).
  17. Are you malicious? Are your words intended to cut and wound? Are your words harsh? (See Prov. 11:12; 15:1; 16:27; 17:4).
  18. Are you insincere in your compliments? Do you flatter others for your own advantage? (See Prov. 26:28; 29:5).
  19. Is your speech filthy? Do you swear or use foul language? Do you use the latest slang or crass expressions? (See Prov. 4:24; 10:31–32; Col. 3:8).
  20. Do you fail to listen? Do you jump to conclusions before you are sure that you have heard and understood? (See Prov. 18:13; 19:20; Jas. 1:19).

How’d you score? If you suddenly realize you have a problem with your words, come back next week as we drill down to the root of those nasty words.

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on PaulaWrites.com.

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  • Fulbrightgirl

    Great reminder for us to: Let the words of our mouth and the meditations of our hearts be acceptable in thy sight Oh Lord my strength and my redeemer. Psalm 19:14

    • phendricks

      Amen, Fulbrightgirl!

  • sal

    I believe that your made a mistake. I tried to look up Prov 50… but its not there. Maybe you meant another book! The last chapter of Proverbs is the 31st.

    • phendricks

      Nice catch, Sal! And sweet way to point it out. Thank you. I’ll fix that now. 🙂

  • Dancer on tip toe

    Yikes! I answered 14 yes and 6 no! I think I am in need in this area! Thank you for making me alert to this.

    • phendricks

      Thanks for your honesty, Dancer on tip toe. Praying about points 14 and 6 for you now.

    • phendricks

      Thanks for your honesty, Dancer on tip toe. Praying about points 14 and 6 for you now.

  • Brogan

    Man, I am guilty of all of them at times, and most of them regularly. But what do you do when you are around folks who may struggle with the same thing, yet do not see their ways as bad? I would like to get better in these areas myself, but find I slip into bad habits depending on who I am around (and I often have to be around others who do struggle, yet won’t change). (I hope I am not judging them, I care very much for them after all!)

  • Brogan

    Man, I am guilty of all of them at times, and most of them regularly. But what do you do when you are around folks who may struggle with the same thing, yet do not see their ways as bad? I would like to get better in these areas myself, but find I slip into bad habits depending on who I am around (and I often have to be around others who do struggle, yet won’t change). (I hope I am not judging them, I care very much for them after all!)

    • phendricks

      Great question, Brogan! Proverbs 13:20 warns us to, “Walk with the wise and become
      wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” It matters—deeply—who your closest friends are. That doesn’t mean you drop all friends who sin with their mouth; it just means it’s important to seek out godly friends.

  • GodGirl

    Number 18 got me- I often compliment others just to be liked! I also whine and complain like number 12 . . . not to mention all the other struggles!

    Thanks, Paula, for giving me some perspective!

    • phendricks

      Thanks for your honesty, GodGirl!

  • Amber

    Guilty as charged…unfortunately my tongue has always been a trouble maker for me. I am trying to train it but sometimes it gets gossipy or hurtful. Usually I think i monopolize conversation and am a total pest to my boyfriend, who i love but I definitely need to not try to talk to every minute! lol great post Paula…you rock girl! You’re my favorite LYWB author! 🙂

    • phendricks

      Thanks, Amber! Come back next week for the solution. 🙂

    • phendricks

      Thanks, Amber! Come back next week for the solution. 🙂

  • Maemoe

    Ouch. I will say no more. 🙁

    • phendricks

      Good news coming, Maemoe. Stay tuned!

  • Alicia Marie Allen

    Luke 6:45 “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. ” I’m guilty but praise God that He is the renewer of our hearts!! ♡

    • phendricks

      Amen, Alicia! That’s exactly where we’re going next week–our hearts. 🙂

    • phendricks

      Amen, Alicia! That’s exactly where we’re going next week–our hearts. 🙂

  • Arabella

    To say the least, I will definitely be paying a LOT of attention the next few weeks to these devotions. I will need them.

    • phendricks

      Thanks so much for your teachable spirit, Arabella!

    • phendricks

      Thanks so much for your teachable spirit, Arabella!

  • Jasmine

    I believe we all fail even when we don’t see
    it. I might have answered some as No or some as a definite yes’ but I know that
    in reality I’ve probably failed at all of these things without realizing it.
    Thanks for the devotions, they really help. 🙂

    • phendricks

      Thanks for reading them, Jasmine!

  • Brooklyn Mikinzie

    Okay, so I read through these this morning and kinda chuckled. I thought, “I dont really do any of these, so this post is sorta useless to me.”
    However, throughout the day I felt convicted to read over this post again. I fought the conviction, because once I set an opinion on something, I refuse to change it. And, I guess you could say that I jumped to conclusions when I didnt understand it yet *cough cough #20 cough cough*
    I’ve realized how incredibly wrong I was, and I thank you for this post. Its very eye opening.

    • phendricks

      And I thank you for listening to the Holy Spirit’s conviction, Brooklyn, and being willing to give it a second look!

  • Elizabeth

    The point is that we ALL struggle with one thing or another… It is possible to get better and it is possible to learn and love in Jesus. His Power is made stronger through our weakness! – 2 Corinthians 12:7-10. Beautiful reminder Ms. Hendricks… thanks so much.

    • phendricks

      You’re so welcome, Elizabeth. Yep, that’s where we’re headed in the next couple of weeks–how we can get new words through Christ.

  • Sherrie Ashenbremer

    I live in a neighborhood where gossip runs ramped and recently I decided not to participate. I feel so much better when someone starts to gossip or be negative about another person, i change the subject. Boy that warm sun sure feel good today, or boy the rain we had last night was just the thing for my flowers. I have stopped all the gossip. I do feel better too

  • Eva

    When a member of the church staff was asked to resign, my Bible study class (all women) wanted to talk about it. The facts were kept private but everyone had an idea of what had happened. Wisely, the group leader requested that the subject not be discussed in class. She read us the verses from James about the tongue being full of deadly poison.

  • Keepin On

    Good Stuff. Glad you took the time to share these.

  • Michayla

    Wow that quiz wrecked me. I need to apply some more Jesus to my interactions!!