The Secret to Becoming a Bold, Brave, and Beautiful Woman

The stage was filled with the presence of a woman overflowing with confidence, security, authority, beauty, and boldness.

Silence filled the auditorium as we all watched this mighty woman of God share counter-cultural truths that would utterly shock the average woman. She wasn’t scared to speak boldly. She spoke like a woman who knew that her source of information was as true as true can be. She possessed the secret we all desperately long for.

Now picture yourself in her shoes.

Can you imagine being a woman who is extremely confident in her identity and life purpose?
Can you imagine knowing exactly where your worth comes from?
Can you imagine waking up every day with full confidence that you have an important purpose for that day?
Can you imagine fully embracing the reality that your value has nothing to do with what guys think of you, how much money you have, how great your job is, or how pretty others think you are?

Can you imagine?

The truth is, you can be that kind of woman.

The woman I introduced you to has found the secret to becoming a truly bold, brave, and powerful woman, and I want to share it with you. The secret is this:

Her entire identity is found in Christ alone.

He is her rock.
He is her strength.
He is her goal.
He is her focus.
He is her joy.
He is her prize.
He is her peace.
He is her comfort.
He is her hope.
He is her foundation.
He is her security.
He is her example.
He gives her power.
He gives her boldness.
He makes her brave.
He gives her true and lasting beauty.
He transforms her to be like Himself.
He is strong when she is weak.
He gives her breath and life.
He is the reason that she lives.

This woman understood that God is her Creator and He alone defines her purpose, worth, and identity as a woman. She knows that the Bible is tried and true and that God’s Word is the only true source of authority to stand on.

If you want to avoid (or overcome) serious insecurities and major identity issues and to boldly live out your God-given identity, stop and ask yourself this question:

Is my identity found in Christ alone?

If you are looking to anything (absolutely anything) other than Christ to give you true worth, purpose, and fulfillment, it will fail you. It will not work long term.

I want to challenge you to stop and evaluate your own life. If you are totally and completely honest with yourself, which camp do you fall into? There are really only two options:

    1. Do you define your worth according to what others think about you?
    2. Do you define your worth according to who you are in Christ and what He says about you?

Take a few minutes right now to stop and listen to “In Christ Alone” by Keith and Kristyn Getty. (We’ve posted the video below for you.)

If you desire to have true confidence, security, and hope in your own life, you have to make the words of that song true for you. Read these lyrics slowly, and make this your prayer. Ask God to make this true in your life.

In Christ alone my hope is found
He is my light, my strength, my song.
This cornerstone, this solid ground,
Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
When fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My comforter, my all in all
Here in the love of Christ I stand.

Make It Personal

  • In what ways are you looking to something/someone other than Christ to bring you worth as a woman?
  • How can you strengthen your relationship with Christ so that He truly becomes your all-in-all?

About Author

Bethany Baird

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog (www.GirlDefined.com) and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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  • Ana

    Thank you Bethany for the eloquent and much-needed article! As young women in today’s culture who are working towards everything you have written above, it’s encouraging to also remember that with our bibles, we can stand against Satan and his entire army. God’s word can show us the truth, show us our protection, and help to set us on the right path with God so we find our worth with him. Thank you again for the post!

  • Lenka

    Beautiful message Bethany!💕

  • Morgan

    The problem is, I’m not sure what God thinks about me. I’ve asked Him, but no response yet. I haven’t really found any scriptures answering yet either. I think I’m just in my own head too much? 🤷‍♀️

    • Anonymous Sister

      Romans 8:31-39
      “31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? 33 Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 As it is written:

      “For Your sake we are killed all day long;
      We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”[c]
      37 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, 39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

      You’re a conqueror.

      Psalm 139:13- “For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. 14I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.…”)

      You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

      Prov. 31:10-31-
      “10 Who[a] can find a virtuous[b] wife?
      For her worth is far above rubies.
      11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
      So he will have no lack of gain.
      12 She does him good and not evil
      All the days of her life.
      13 She seeks wool and flax,
      And willingly works with her hands.
      14 She is like the merchant ships,
      She brings her food from afar.
      15 She also rises while it is yet night,
      And provides food for her household,
      And a portion for her maidservants.
      16 She considers a field and buys it;
      From her profits she plants a vineyard.
      17 She girds herself with strength,
      And strengthens her arms.
      18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
      And her lamp does not go out by night.
      19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
      And her hand holds the spindle.
      20 She extends her hand to the poor,
      Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
      21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
      For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
      22 She makes tapestry for herself;
      Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
      23 Her husband is known in the gates,
      When he sits among the elders of the land.
      24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
      And supplies sashes for the merchants.
      25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
      She shall rejoice in time to come.
      26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
      And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
      27 She watches over the ways of her household,
      And does not eat the bread of idleness.
      28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
      Her husband also, and he praises her:
      29 “Many daughters have done well,
      But you excel them all.”
      30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
      But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
      31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
      And let her own works praise her in the gates.”

      This is how the Lord sees you. This is who He created you to be. Virtuous women are hardworking, loving towards others, is strengthened by the Lord, is wise and capable.

      This describes you. Even if you think it doesn’t, remember that God doesn’t look at us and see who we are now, but who we are supposed to be. He knows that through Him and in His righteousness, you are this woman. He loves you, and in Him you are renewed, justified, and righteous! Don’t let the devil tell you any different!

    • Leslie

      Denying yourself for Christ is the answer. You don’t have to think or understand about who you are in Him, just surrender everything you are not sure, surrender every thought because He said in 2 Corinthians 10:5 “bring every (all) thought in the obedience of Christ”

      • Morgan

        Thank you for the response😁

    • Hello Morgan! When I think about who I am, my identity, I have to remind myself to start with understanding who God is first (as best I can, anyhow!). I love that song that Chris Tomlin sings, “Good, Good Father.” It’s simple but it really sums up who I am – I’m loved by a perfect God who wants to be with me!

      Regarding scripture that talks about who YOU are (& who all of us are), below is a list for you to peruse when you have time. I can’t remember where I found these (a youth group lessons somewhere?), but I pull them out every once in awhile, when I’m struggling with who I really REALLY am, or when I talk about this with my own girls. It’s VERY long, but maybe it will help? Blessings to you!

      You are…
      • Accepted, Ephesians 1:6
      • Loved, Ephesians 1:4
      • Adopted, Ephesians 1:5, 6
      • Forgiven, Ephesians 1:7
      • A child of God, Romans 8:16
      • A friend of Jesus, John 15:14
      • Saved by grace, Ephesians 2:8
      • Chosen, John 15:16
      • Complete, Colossians 2:10
      • Redeemed, Galatians 3:13
      • Rescued, Colossians 1:13
      • Cared for, 1 Peter 5:7
      • Blessed, Ephesians 1:3
      • Healed, 1 Peter 2:24
      • Eternal, 1 John 5:11, 12
      • A new person, 2 Corinthians 5:17
      • A masterpiece, Ephesians 2:10
      • An heir, Romans 8:17
      • A temple, 1 Peter 2:5
      • An example, Ephesians 5:1
      • Declared not guilty, Romans 3:24
      • Not condemned, Romans 8:1
      • Made right with God, 2 Corinthians 5:21
      • Led by the Spirit, Romans 8:14
      • Living by faith, 2 Corinthians 5:7
      • Being transformed, Romans 12:1, 2
      • Not afraid, 2 Timothy 1:7
      • Strong in the Lord, Ephesians 6:10
      • Victorious, Romans 8:37
      • An overcomer, 1 John 4:4
      • A co-worker with God, 1 Corinthians 3:9
      • A workman, Philippians 2:13
      • One in Christ with other believers, Galatians 3:28
      • Part of the church, Ephesians 5:29, 30

      • Morgan

        Thank you 😁

  • Savannah

    If this God is so big and loves me so much then why am I going through the things I am going through? The only answer I have gotten is that because He knows I can handle it but really I cant

    • LexingtonS

      Hey Savannah! I totally get where you’re coming from! But I don’t think that God knows you can handle whatever it is you are going through, I think that he just wants you to learn to depend on Him only. It is a really hard thing to do; I seriously am not good at it at all, but I know that that is what He wants for me and for you! There is a verse in Romans. Its chapter 8 verse 28, and it says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” I find so much hope in this verse because whenever I hear it, it reminds me that He does know what He is doing even if I don’t. I hope that I helped you in someway. I will be praying for you if that’s ok. Be strong, Savannah!!

    • Sarah, with Revive Our Hearts

      Savannah, one of the ladies I have studied under, when people have said God won’t give you anything that you can’t handle, has often said that there are things that go on in our lives that we can’t handle on our own, but there is NOTHING in our lives that we can’t handle WITH Him. He doesn’t expect you to go it alone…He goes through it with you. This world gives us very difficult circumstances to walk through at times…because it is a fallen world, full of toil and trouble. But with God, we can handle anything. “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. For I am the LORD, your God…your Savior.” (Isa. 43:2-3)

      I encourage you to go to a mature Christian and share what is going on in your life and let her give you wise counsel from the Word of God, pray with you and encourage you as you face these difficult situations in your life. Someone to walk with you is often God’s clearest way to strengthen you and help you walk through difficulty. Read your Bible each day; seek Him and HIs presence and counsel.

      I’m with Lexington below…I am praying for you, Savannah. I pray God will give you the strength and hope in the midst of this trial. “Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, And therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him.” (Isa. 30:18) I pray He will give you grace and peace to cover you as you seek Him. “The eternal God is a dwelling place, And underneath are the everlasting arms” (Deut. 33:27)

  • Ruth

    This is WONDERFULL it makes my a stronger woman more stronger spiritually💜