Stand for Truth Thursday: Being a Girl in a Transgendered World

We asked you where you are facing resistance to God’s truth. Here’s what you told us:

“Many times I’m worried that my belief in God making people either a boy or a girl without being both or switching genders will be recognized as hate.” ~Olivia

“At my public school, those who do not agree with the LGBT are truly frowned upon.” ~Leah

“I feel very conflicted when it comes to the topic of LGBT.” ~Beatrice

As God’s girls who believe that His Word is true, it feels like we see pink and blue in a world that sees rainbow. Sometimes that has the people around us seeing red.

So as girls in a transgendered world, what’s the best way to respond to the ongoing debate about sexual preference? I’d like to dip my toe into the water of that conversation in today’s “Stand for Truth Thursday” post, but first, do you mind if I make a few disclaimers?

Disclaimer #1: I believe that God’s Word is true and unchanging.

I’d take these two verses straight to the bank.

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness (2 Tim. 3:16).

“For I the LORD do not change” (Mal. 3:6).

I believe that the Bible is God’s Word and that it does not change based on circumstances or culture. If you have a belief about sexual preference that is based on something other than what God’s Word says, we will have a hard time finding common ground.

Disclaimer #2: This issue is too big to cover completely in a single blog post.

I am not able to cover the issues of sexuality from every possible angle in a single post. We will continue to talk about this issue here on the blog, so consider this the start of the conversation, not the whole enchilada.

If you’re interested, here are several posts from our archives about sexuality.

Is Homosexuality A Sin?

How to Talk to a Friend About Homosexuality

4 Things the “Same Sex Marriage” Ruling Isn’t

Disclaimer #3: This is a war-free zone.

I know that LGBT issues are a very hot topic. In fact, they’ve become the fire we all war dance around. But because I love the readers of this blog and because I want us to be seen as a beacon for those searching for truth online, I will not let this post start a war in the comment section. We love discussion, and you are more than welcome to disagree with my position, but in order for us to allow your comment on our discussion wall, you must do so in a respectful manner that cares for the hearts of the readers of this blog.

Whew! That was a lot of fine print. Now let’s get down to business. As a Christian girl, what can you do to stand up to the message that gender is fluid?

Here are five ideas.

1. Know your Bible.

Everyone has an opinion about sexuality. Those opinions have been formed largely through experiences. But we do not interpret the world through our feelings or experiences. We interpret it through the infallible, unchanging Word of God.

We do not interpret the world through our feelings or experiences. We interpret it through the infallible, unchanging Word of God.

There are those proponents of homosexuality who will use the Bible to affirm their position. That’s why we need an understanding of the whole Bible, not just a few hot button verses. Instead of looking for one verse about homosexuality, broaden the lens a bit.

What does the Bible really say about sexuality? If you are going to take a stand on this issue, you need to start with that question. I’d encourage you not to Google. That will just lead you to what other people say the Bible says about sexuality. Cut out the middle man and run straight to the source. Ask God to show you His truth on this issue. That’s a prayer He loves to answer!

James 1:5 promises, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”

Standing for truth always begins with opening your Bible.

Doing your own homework on this issue will help God’s truth seep deep into your heart. Standing for truth always begins with opening your Bible.

2. Pray for revival.

This week, my pastor said, “If the pain of this world is going to be eased, it’s going to take changed hearts. Not just a few. Billions of them.”

That’ll preach.

Instead of praying for LGBT peers at your school to change their position or leave you alone, pray for them to surrender their lives to Jesus. Pray for God’s Spirit to do a mighty work in your school. Pray for many of the people in your halls to acknowledge Christ as Lord. Behavior change is a beautiful by-product of heart change. Will you join me in praying for changed hearts? Not just a few. Billions of them!

Imagine what could happen if you started prayer-walking the halls of your school each morning?

3. Stay out of the pigpen.

The LGBT debate cannot be won or lost on Facebook.

The LGBT debate cannot be won or lost on Facebook.

I repeated that sentence because we all need the reminder.

When we scream at each other across the digital divide, no one wins. To discuss an issue this personal and heated in the public arena won’t get us anywhere. We need to have grace-filled, love-saturated conversations. That happens best in person, and preferably one-on-one.

We need to have grace-filled, love-saturated conversations.

Jesus said it this way: “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you” (Matt. 7:6).

Instead of leading to changed hearts, debating this issue on social media will only cause a feeding frenzy.

4. Live pure lives.

We need to avoid being on the lookout for sexual sin in other people’s lives and being lax about sexual sin in our own lives.

The LGBT debate is ultimately about choosing to believe (or not believe) that as the Creator of all things, God gets to decide how we express our sexuality. Being gay, transgender, or bisexual is not the only way to miss God’s mark for sexuality. We need to avoid being on the lookout for sexual sin in other people’s lives and being lax about sexual sin in our own lives. Jesus warned against this plank-eye syndrome:

“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” (Matt. 7:3–5).

One counter-cultural way to take a stand for God’s plan for sexuality is to live it!

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God (1 Thess. 4:3–5).

5. Be a moon!

When it comes to gender, we are wise to ask, “Why does it matter?” If we are going to stake our claim on the fact that gender roles are fixed and cannot change, we need to know why that’s a hill worth dying on.

Genesis 1:27 gives the shockingly simple answer:

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

All people bear the image of God. God made guys guys to reveal something about Himself, and He made girls girls to reflect something about who He is. When the lines get blurred, our picture of God starts to get fuzzy.

You don’t have to march in a parade to stand for God’s truth on gender. You just need to reflect Him. Like the moon, which has no light of its own but reflects the brilliance of the sun, we display God’s plan for gender when we imitate Jesus.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children (Eph. 5:1).

Follow the Rainbow

The rainbow has become a symbol used by LGBT opponents, but God’s Word teaches a different meaning.

In Genesis 9, the rainbow was a symbol of God’s mercy and His promise that He would never again destroy the earth with a flood. Fast forward to the back of your Bible, and the rainbow appears over the throne of Jesus (Rev. 4:3). The story of all of humanity is bookended with the rainbow. It is ultimately a reminder of God’s power and sovereignty and love for His creation.

Only God can change hearts and minds.

Instead of trusting in our culture or our school to see this issue like we do, we trust the God who hung the first rainbow. While these steps are important to take, we cannot turn the tide in five easy steps. Only God can change hearts and minds. Do you trust Him to do it at your school?

Jesus, make the readers of this blog graceful reflections of your truth. Teach us how to be girls who live your truth. Amen.

About Author

Erin Davis

Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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  • Leanne

    You are so right, Erin. There’s a principle which I think is pretty much applicable to anything: “The only way for ______________ to stop is if you bring them to Jesus.” It’s true. The Gospel changes EVERYTHING. When you are clothed in Christ’s righteousness and have taken on an identity in Christ, all the other issues easily fall into place.

  • Lucy

    Can I just say this blog is wonderful 💗 I come from a place where no one is a Christian at all and feel like blog has definitely been sent by God. Every day getting a reminder I’m not alone in my beleifs and hope that when I’m older I can meet other Christians is honestly so reassuring . Also I find the bible sometimes difficult to translate into my life but by reading this it it is helping me apply it so much more. Thank you you don’t know why you’ve done for me xxx

  • Hannah.

    I love the ‘moon’ symbolism. A lesson I’ve learned over the years is that it isn’t my job to trumpet opinions. It’s my job to love people, regardless of the choices they make or what their background is. The transgender debate can be confusing to me because it isn’t something we see explicitly mentioned in the bible, but that doesn’t really matter. because it’s not my job to condemn people, that’s God’s job. It’s my job to love them like Jesus does.

  • Sam

    Can you guys post something about getting ahold of the deepest, innermost sins? The ones that are in our minds and hearts and that nobody else knows about except you and God? I know the first step is repentance, but what comes next? How can I keep my heart and mind in check all for the good of my soul?

    • Justin-Maradith Sewell

      james 5:16
      john 3:19-21

    • Carrie @ Revive Our Hearts

      Good question, Sam.

      Turning from the sin that so easily entangles us does indeed require repentance. But equally important is the need to saturate our heart and mind in the truth of God’s Word. Get in the Word of God daily… morning and evening.

      You might begin by reading Ephesians. As you read make a list
      of:

      · What this passage says about God/ Jesus / Holy Spirit
      ·
      What does it say about those who are followers of Jesus?
      ·
      What does it say about those who are not followers of Jesus?
      ·
      What instructions/commands are given for followers of Jesus?
      ·
      Based on what I’ve read today, what do I need to do or believe
      in order to obey?

      You might also check out this excellent resource on repentance:

      http://download.redeemer.com/pdf/learn/resources/All_of_Life_Is_Repentance-Keller.pdf

      Praying for you right now, Sam.

      Grace and peace,
      Carrie

  • 201821208 :)

    “male and female created He them” Gen. 1:27​

  • Olivia Chambers

    This post has started me on the right track for dealing with LGBT people and situations. Thank you so much for directing us to truth. I’ve learned that when I am confused I need to search for truth, not a convincing argument.

  • hannahb

    Can I just say that I am so proud of this blog and the leaders that shine God’s truth and love through it? I even go to a Christian high school and find myself at so many times being the only indidividual speaking up for God’s truth that is written in His scriptures so to find a light of His truth is so refreshing in this world. It’s hard because I’ve found that when you convey God’s word especially about LGBT you come across condemning instead of them knowing that it is from a greater love that we speak up. It is for a greater love that can only come through Christ and His will for their lives that Christians speak up instead of hide in the shadows. Thank you for this post.

  • Maggie Fipps

    I recently had a conversation with a transgender girl in my class. We actually talked about dating, but she said something that makes me understand why so many people are having this problem. She said she believes that she and other people should and could do anything they want to make them feel happy/good. Now I understand that for her that can mean that she will decide to act like a guy instead of the gender that God made her. This can be true for a lot of us, to different extremes. We can do whatever makes us feel good, like putting other people down, or look at immoral things. This post really helped me know what to say when I talk to her next. Thanks!

  • Avery

    This blog post honestly is wonderful. It basically says everything I’ve thought on the subject in ways I never could. Basically my opinion on the subject is that yes, lgbt is sin, because God created us in His own image, with our bodies being temples (in other words, your body is the way it should be, and it should be respected and loved, not changed), with marriage being between a man and a woman, as God intended it to be, and with any sort of sexual desire or acts outside of a marriage (again, between a man and a woman) being adultery, a sin. However, as much as I know these are sins, I also know that hate is a sin and too many professing Christians have turned to hate. The worst way to make someone love and trust our God is to behave in a way that makes them believe God is hateful. Christians are supposed to be a reflection of God, so we must show God’s infinite and unwavering love to these people so that they realize how loving our Father really is. Also, we can’t be hypocritical. All sins are equally bad in God’s eyes, and we all sin, so why do we, as Christians, like to pretend that the sins of the lgbt community are worse than ours? We need them to know that their sins can be forgiven just as ours are. We need to show them that we are real people with big sins, and the only reason we are going to Heaven is because we have a forgiving God that sacrificed His only son for us, and that they have the same opportunities for forgiveness. Also, we need to remember that although it feels like Christianity is being attacked, God promised that we would be, and that it’s still important or even more important to stand strong. I also think it’s important to remember that in other countries, people get killed or tortured for their beliefs, so we have it really easy and that the sins of the world are not attacks against us, but against the God we worship, so we have no right to feel personally offended but instead we should fight for God’s sake, not for our own, because when we do it because we feel personally offended, it means that we hold ourselves higher than the other people, when really we should be holding God above all things. Those are my thoughts on this.

  • zphinazee

    thank you so much for this article best advice on this subject ever! I’ve struggled with this so much and often felt like the only christian who is like is it a sin or not, and not knowing how to respond and being conflicted!

    • erinleedavis

      Zphinazee,

      I’m so glad the Lord used this post to help you understand His Truth!

      Keep reading. We love (love, love) readers like you!

      Grace & Peace,

      Erin Davis

  • Maggie84

    I cant help but think that you are hurting people by using the bible to preach hate rather than love. 1 in 10 people are LGBT. Homosexuality exists in over 400 animal species. Same sex attraction is natural and the love they feel for one and other is and can be as equal and as pure as the love heterosexual couples feel for one and other. Please don’t delete this post as I am not being nasty or hateful, I am just expressing an alternative opinion. Please think about the way in which you are negatively affecting LGBT young people when you negate their truth and make them feel as though they are broken. The suicide rates for LGBT individuals is astronomical – that’s not something I think should be exacerbated…

    • Sydney

      I don’t believe this post was hateful. It just expressed an opinion different than yours.

    • Tessa

      The key words in your comment were “negate their truth.” Each person does not have their own version of truth, but God has absolute truth.

    • Morgan

      I don’t think this was a hateful blog. I don’t think any of us here are glad when LGBT individuals get bullied and discriminated against. However, God condemns homosexual activity. By keeping this to ourselves and not telling people about God’s Truth, we’re doing them a huge disservice. How can they come to know God when nobody tells them about Him? Of course, if they don’t want to believe, they don’t have to; but there’s a difference between hating and believing what God says about homosexuality.

  • Hazel

    Maybe just let LGBTQ people alone. Jesus said to love one another, so love and let love. As a nonbinary bisexual I am the way I am and I love who I am. God comes in many shapes and forms, be it cis or trans, straight or gay or bisexual or pansexual or asexual. Let queers be queers. We’re all sinners, and being LGBTQIA+ doesn’t mean someone can’t be Christian. But regardless, love and don’t try to change people from what they are.

    • Lizz

      If you did not agree with Erin, why did you read the post? And No one said you cant be a Christian, But you should not use Gods grace as a license to sin. God makes it clear in Genesis 1:27 what the purpose of marriage is for, and God did not change his mind. Us girls(Gods girls) are suppose to be different from the rest of the world. If were not then… we need a self check. Do we(and im saying we, cause we ALL sin) really love God, if we cant even keep his commands and take what he says as truth , true?

      • yo

        nigga shut up

    • Morgan

      We can’t use the fact that we’re all sinful by nature as an excuse to knowingly go against God’s word. We aren’t saying these things out of hate for you, but rather because we love you and want you to be close with God. God says in both the Old and New Testaments that homosexual activity is an abomination to Him. As Christians, we need to take these things seriously and to heart. Jesus did say to love one another, but He also doesn’t allow sin to go unnoticed. Like Lizz said, we can’t take advantage of God’s grace. “…don’t try to change people from what they are.” That’s like saying, “I know I’m a liar, but that’s who I am, don’t try to change me.” When we know we are sinning, we need to repent.

  • Shanae B

    I love the concept of ‘being a moon’! That’s easier to explain to others than ambassador of Christ! Really needed to read this post today! It’s hard to not hash out with people on this subject.

  • Lisey

    Hi guys, I’ve was talking with a junior I work with the other day who decided to tell me that he thinks he’s transgender. He was really firm on making sure I don’t tell anyone and that he was really struggling with it. Any suggestions on how I can lovingly tell him the truth on what gender is? Thanks in advance 🙂

    • Shanae B

      Lots of prayer before you do anything else! This is something to approach very tenderheartedly.

      • Lisey

        Definitely! Prayer going into it right now 🙂

    • Much, much prayer should cover this situation. And much, much compassion and love. It took a lot of courage for him to open up to you about this. Approach this with humility and acknowledge you don’t know a lot about this but you care for him and want to help him.

      He needs to be speaking to someone about this – encourage him to bring this out in the light so he can get the help he needs. Is there an older godly man you know that your friend might be willing to talk with? You could go along with your friend to this visit, but it does need to be with someone older who can get your friend the adequate help he needs to work through his questions and his confusion. We are praying for you, Lisey, and your friend this morning!

      • Lisey

        Thank you for your prayer! It is really appreciated. There is possibly and older Christian guy he can talk to, thanks for the suggestion.