Summer Book Club: Becoming the Best Big Sister

From the LYWB Blog Team: We’re on chapter six in our Summer Book Club, where we’re reading Family: How to Love Yours (and Help Them Like You Back) by Jessie Minassian. Even if you don’t have the book, there’s so much for you to learn! (Though we’re big fans of Family and hope you’ll grab your own copy.)

Let’s chat about how important you are, big sister, in the lives of your younger siblings!

If you’re a big sis, I would encourage you to get a copy of Family and unpack and apply these eight ways to be a strong example for your little sibs. (You can find these on pages 107–115 in the book.)

Be an example . . .

  1. In what you say.
  2. In encouragement.
  3. In the way you live.
  4. In love.
  5. In faith.
  6. In purity.
  7. In reading the Bible.
  8. In teaching.

As I mentioned in the vlog, we’re answering this application question in the comments today (because I love fun stories!): What funny memories do you have of your younger siblings making their mark on your life?

You can also take a moment to ponder these questions and examine your example as a big sister:

  • Do your younger brothers and sisters look up to you? How can you tell?
  • How would you rate the example you’ve been setting lately for your younger siblings?

I hope you enjoy the next chapter of Family: How to Love Yours (and Help Them Like You Back), “Becoming the Best Little Sister.” We’ll meet again next Monday for another installment of our Summer Book Club!

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About Author

Jessie Minassian

Jessie Minassian is a speaker, blogger, and the author of ten books and Bible studies, including Crushed, Unashamed, and Backwards Beauty. She is the "resident big sis" at, a Q&A website for teen girls. Her work for teens and their parents has been featured internationally through outlets such as Focus on the Family, Parenting Today’s Teens, She Reads Truth, Axis, Revive Our Hearts and YouthWorker Journal. She and her husband live and serve at Hume Lake Christian Camps in California, and have two daughters.

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  • Jenn

    I have always been there for my younger brother, but we don’t live close so that is a challenge. I hope and pray that my children will remain close.

  • Rachel Ward

    Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

  • Rachel Lee

    I am definitely trying to be a good example of a Christian to not only my family but everyone around me 🙂 it isn’t always easy but I hope people see a difference in me

  • Leslie

    so come form a “broken” home so my mom and bio dad have my and my little sister then he has 6 more kids then my mom had 3 more so I have 6 sisters and 4 brothers and i”m the oldest . is being a bis sis is a big deal the all look up to me and I love being a great role modle for them .

  • Erika

    I know my siblings look up to me a lot, all of them thankfully love me! I love them back and I usually set a good example. Of course everything I do is an example, so I need to try my best to show them patience, love, kindness, etc. Thanks for the post!
    One of my sisters loves stories so we go to the library together and I help her find books to read. It’s actually amazing, being the oldest sister. I love my siblings very much.

  • Hannah

    I am the oldest of 8 kids, and I try and pray everyday that God will help me be loving, kind, and a good example to them. But it is SO SO hard sometimes! Thanks for this post, I loved it!!!❤️

    • TLC

      Hey Hannah! I’m the oldest (girl) of all my siblings, there’s 7 of them now, 1 on the way and my mom has had miscarried several times if all her pregnancies went thourgh (or if we hadn’t lost my little brother) there would be 20 kids in our family! I know it can be hard to set the best example! I’ll be praying for you!

  • Rebecca

    I am the firstborn of 7 kids, and while it is not excruciatingly hard work, it definitely has it’s trying moments each day.

  • Cassidy Watson

    One of the of things my little brother has done to make a mark on my life has been being very cuddly. He loves to give hugs, and I don’t, but this helps me remember to be kind and loving to him, even when I don’t always want too.