Summer Book Club: Becoming the Best Little Sister

From the LYWB Blog Team: Hey, girls! We’re studying Family: How to Love Yours (and Help Them Like You Back) by Jessie Minassian this summer! We’re tackling chapter seven this week and giving away another copy of the book! If you’d like to grab your own copy and study with us, you can do that right here.

In chapter seven, “Becoming the Best Little Sister,” we learned that sometimes it’s nice to have someone walking ahead of you on the trail of life. Watching someone else “go first” can work in your favor!

I hope you also took time to complete the “Me Quiz II” (on pages 131–136), because the temptation to abandon your own identity to “live up to” an older sibling is real—and God wants you to be the original He intended.

At times you may feel like your only identity is being known as ________________’s little sister, but as you focus on your unique strengths, characteristics, beauty, and accomplishments, you can be proud of who you are and who you’re becoming (p. 137).

Join us in the comments below where we’re discussing this application question: What comparisons do you make between yourself and your older siblings? And are those fair comparisons to make, or should you try to avoid them?

Next up: chapter eight, “The Family Feud.” Keep reading those pages in Family, and we can’t wait to join you again next week!

You know the drill by now, right? Log on to the giveaway widget. Answer the discussion question. Boom—you’re entered to win a copy of Family!

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About Author

Jessie Minassian

Jessie Minassian is a speaker, blogger, and the author of ten books and Bible studies, including Crushed, Unashamed, and Backwards Beauty. She is the "resident big sis" at, a Q&A website for teen girls. Her work for teens and their parents has been featured internationally through outlets such as Focus on the Family, Parenting Today’s Teens, She Reads Truth, Axis, Revive Our Hearts and YouthWorker Journal. She and her husband live and serve at Hume Lake Christian Camps in California, and have two daughters.

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  • Erika

    I am the oldest sibling but I can imagine how hard it sometimes has to be for my younger sisters to put up with me xp
    I try to be patient and understanding…

  • Marion Collins

    I am a twin and have an older sister. We are all close.

  • Cassidy Watson

    I am the oldest sibling, but I know that I need to be a good role model for my younger brother. But I also think I can compare myself to older girl friends, whether it’s beauty or abilities or talents. I have to remind myself that these are not fair comparisons, and that I need to focus on being the best I can be, and in what God thinks of me.

  • TLC

    I loved your book Jessie!

  • Rachel Lee

    I used to really compare my grades with my older sibling in middle school. I struggled with studying and my older brother was constantly getting better grades so my I felt that my parents loved him more than me. It as a fair comparison because it ruined my self worth

    • I’m so sorry you felt that way, Rachel! Comparisons can run deep, but I hope you’re learning to see your unique strengths and building your worth on Christ—the only place any of us find deep, lasting confidence!

  • Leslie

    i’m the oldest but i still compare myself with my younger sister

  • Kk

    This book looks good!

  • Rachel Ward

    Thank you! I am a younger and older sister, so the last two chapters are perfect for me! I only have older brothers, and I’m not sure if I compare myself to them a lot or not. But now I know what to watch out for!

  • Thanks for joining the conversation, ladies! Looking forward to chatting again next week! xo