From the LYWB Blog Team: Can you believe it’s already August?! All summer long we’ve been studying Family: How to Love Yours (and Help Them Like You Back) by Jessie Minassian together. If you haven’t gotten a copy yet, we totally think you should! There’s wisdom in those pages! Get your copy here.
This week in chapter eight, “The Family Feud,” we learned how to have a good, clean fight—in other words, how to solve conflict in productive ways instead of metaphorically dismembering our family members.
As followers of Jesus, we know there’s a better way to live than to just sit in our conflict, frustration, and hurt. It takes effort, time, and the Holy Spirit’s help, but it is possible to have a disagreement without destroying the bonds of a family (p. 143).
Remember, if God wants to use our families to make us more like Jesus, then a conflict is like the “big game,” where you get to see if all your hard work (Bible study, prayer, and so on) has actually made you a better player. I can’t think of a better (or harder!) situation to show patience, honor, and selflessness than in the middle of a conflict. And that’s exactly why it’s worth working on.
In the comments, we’re discussing this application question: Have you ever had a fight with a family member that actually accomplished something? Do you think it’s possible?
And here a few more questions to ponder:
- How do arguments in your family usually end? How do you wish they’d end?
- Taking an honest look at the way you act and the words you say during an argument, would you consider yourself part of the problem or part of the solution?
Chapter nine, “Daddy’s Little Girl,” is up next! I can’t wait to unpack that chapter with you next week!
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