Modesty has become a hot topic here on the blog. In fact, almost 150 of you have left comments on our previous posts about the subject (if you haven’t read them yet, check out our archives).
Most of you seem to “get” why dressing modestly matters. In fact, I have been blown away by the number of you who are willing to buck the culture by taking a stand in this area. But one trip down the swimsuit aisle is enough to remind me that finding clothes that are both fashionable and modest can seem like mission impossible.
Dannah Gresh is the co-author of Lies Young Women Believe. She is also the author of Secret Keeper, an entire book dedicated to exploring the delicate power of modesty. She and her team travel all over the country teaching moms and girls the “how tos” of modest dressing.
As part of that effort Dannah created something called the “Truth or Bare Fashion Tests.” These are fun little tests that you can take to determine whether or not your clothes are modest. I thought it would be fun to share some of the Truth or Bare tests with you here on the LYWB Blog.
Check them out!
Test 1: The Raise and Praise
Target Question: “Am I showing too much belly?”
Action: Stand straight up and pretend that you are going for it in worship, and extend your arms in the air to God. Is this exposing a lot of belly? Bellies are very intoxicating and we need to save that for our husband!
Remedy:Go to the guys department and buy a simple ribbed T-shirt (Dannah calls these “secret weapons”) to wear under your funky short T’s or with your trendy low riders. Layers are a great solution to belly shirts.
Test 2: Grandpa’s Mirror
Target Question: “How short is too short?”
Action: Get in front of a full-length mirror. If you are in shorts, sit Indian style. If you are in a skirt, sit in a chair with your legs crossed. Now, what do you see in the mirror? Okay, pretend it is your Grandpa! If you see undies, or lots of thigh, your shorts or skirt is too short!
Remedy: Buy longer shorts and skirts! Long shorts are particularly fashionable right now. You can find them almost anywhere in lots of great patterns and colors.
Test 3: Over and Out
Target Question: “Are my pants too low?”
Action: You might need to ask your mom or a good girl friend to help you out with this test. Lean forward and touch your toes. Ask your mom if anything is out of your jeans that you wouldn’t want others to see. If so, your pants are too low!
Remedy: A secret weapon can come in particularly handy in this case. They are made to be extra long. Simply tuck them in to your favorite pair of low rider jeans and you’re good to go. No matter how you bend and move throughout the day, nothing will show except your undershirt.
Test 4: Spring Valley
Target Question: “Is my shirt too tight?”
Action: Place the tips of your fingers together and press into your shirt right in the “valley.” Count to three take your fingers away. If your shirt springs back like a small trampoline, it is too tight!
Remedy: Don’t buy clothes based on the size. Buy them based on fit. Usually, you do have to go a few sizes larger these days to have a modest fit.
Test 5: The Palm Pilot
Target question: “Is my shirt too low cut?”
Action: Place your palm flat with all your fingers tightly together. Hook your thumb onto the little shelf (clavicle) at the base of your neck. Hold your hands flat against your chest. There should be no skin under your pinky, just fabric!
Remedy: Layering is a great way to wear trendy, low cut shirts without bombing the palm pilot test. Wear a cute tank top or t-shirt under a lower cut shirt and you’re all set.
These are just a few fun ways to double check that your clothing is modest. I take try to take these tests every day before I head out the door. Sometimes I find that I am wearing an outfit that I thought was modest, but simply doesn’t pass the test. When that happens, I head back into my closest and change into something that I am confident keeps me cute and covered!
You are such a smart group of girls that I’m sure you can come up with some additional strategies for dressing modestly and fashionably. Why not share them here on the blog? I can’t wait to see what you come up with.