“What did you do while you waited for Trevor?” a girl asked me. (Trevor is my husband of almost ten months.) “It’s so hard to wait patiently.”
I can tell you I sure didn’t wait perfectly! There were lots of hard days, and more and more really sweet days as I learned to put my hope in God rather than in a potential boyfriend or husband.
What did I do during my days as a single?
I did the next thing—whatever was right in front of me.
I spent time with people—the old and the young.
I took dance lessons.
I kept journaling.
I wrote a book.
I pursued God through His Word and in prayer (which really means He was pursuing me!).
I picked Michigan cherries and canned applesauce.
I laid on my beach towel by the waves.
I served in my local church.
I played volleyball at the YMCA.
I did laundry and grocery shopped and cleaned my apartment.
I looked for others who were lonely and tried to encourage them.
I “crashed” from constantly go-go-going, and then I slowly re-learned how to live.
I learned how to say “no” occasionally instead of automatically saying “yes” to every invitation. (Goodbye, burnout!)
I learned how to identify my emotions and communicate what I really thought.
And slowly, without even realizing it, I stopped waiting for a guy and started living for God.
Slowly, without even realizing it, I stopped waiting for a guy and started living for God.
What that doesn’t mean is that I “earned” Trevor because I stopped wanting a guy so bad or because I lived well. Not.at.all.
Trevor was and is an undeserved gift from God.
I love my life with Trevor now. But I also had a purposeful, fulfilling life before Trevor.
I say that to assure you that you are not waiting on a guy to start living. In fact, you have a whole lot of good works just waiting for you to do! Ephesians 2:10 tells us:
We are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
How can you—this very day—do the most good to the most people?
“May the world this day be happier and better because I live.” —A Puritan prayer