Why Did God Give Me This Feeling?

Why did God give me this feeling?

She wrote:

I have feelings for a guy friend. Feelings that I’ve asked God to take away from me several times, but for whatever reason, He has not. Why did God give me feelings I didn’t ask for? And what does He want me to do?

Short answer: I don’t think He did give you feelings for this guy.

I’m not sure where we got this notion that it’s God’s fault if we feel something we don’t want to feel. James 1:13–15 says:

Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.

How do my feelings line up with God’s truth? What does God’s Word have to say about what I’m feeling?

Yes, God gave us the capacity to feel, because He made us in His image and He feels deeply. But I don’t believe He feeds specific feelings into our hearts, like we’d feed a gum ball machine with quarters.

Our feelings ultimately stem from what we’re thinking and believing. Rather than asking God to take away your feelings, examine them the way you’d carefully examine your reflection in the mirror before leaving for school:

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Rom. 12:2, emphasis added).

God doesn’t give us our feelings; but we are wise to give our feelings to God. We see the psalmist doing this over and over in the book of Psalms. He pours out his feelings to God, and then he holds his feelings up to the truth of who God is and compares the two.

So the next time you want to blame God for your feelings, first ask yourself:

  • When did I start to feel this way? What led me to feel this way?
  • What am I thinking and believing that is contributing to this feeling?
  • How do my feelings line up with God’s truth? What does God’s Word have to say about what I’m feeling?

Then bring your feelings to God, taking them to His Word and placing them before Him in prayer.

Now it’s your turn. I’d love to hear from you. Do you believe that God is responsible for your feelings? Why or why not?

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on PaulaWrites.com.

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